This movie was horribly researched Amish speak with a German accent is one, they are also not encouraged to read out of the bible and it's also written in a difficult language that not even a lot of Amish can read. Another problem with this film is the Amish don't grieve long, they have a funeral and once dirt is thrown over the body they are not to speak of the deceased again I.e. they tore down the school after the shooting and built a new one in another location. The show Amish: out of order with Mose Gingrich explains how they deal with death and they certainly don't seek counseling from an outside source! Also the fact that she had accepted a dress from her sister who is shunned and pictures, if the elders knew she was receiving these things they would have shunned her as well. If the main character was actually planning to leave the Amish she certainly wouldn't have discussed it with her husband she would have just battled that decision on her own. And had they gotten a divorce there would be no exchanging of the child, the youngest daughter would remain in the Amish until she was old enough to leave the faith herself.
Review of Amish Grace
